Working in the medical field, I never understood why parents removed their children from Wills and the such. Now that I'm a parent, I understand. Being one who observes people, behaviors, and interactions, I "innerstand" [borrowed term].
Some of these individuals birthed into this world today are rude, nasty, mean, disregarding, disrespectful, ungrateful, thoughtless, unkind, hateful, and heartless. Granted some parents are worthless, some are uneducated, and some don't seem to care; I do however want to appeal to the parents, as well as those [children, young adults or whatever age] who have the mindset, "I didn't ask to be here".
Let me tell you an often overlooked secret. Parents don't get to pick their children! Granted some children are planned pregnancies, but many are not. That being said, remember that parents have absolutely NO control over what their child will look like, ACT like, or be when they become an adult. Therefore, the fact of who-chose-who is a mutual playing field in which either party may get someone they are dissatisfied with, LBS! Just as children don't ask to be born into a family they feel wasn't right for them, parents don't ask for the birth of an imperfect child who causes them grief or heartache.
Oh...Yeah that part. We are all imperfect beings, so with that being said, I think it's time that some of the young people that have managed to make it to adulthood with all of the bafoolery they've performed over the years and somehow walked away alive, take a moment to ponder, if not even ask their parents, how their decisions may have directly, or indirectly impacted them too. One may be surprised to know the level of fear their parents have lived with or still live with everyday knowing they are no longer in position to keep their baby safe from harms way, and should something tragic happen, there's nothing they could do different to protect their once sweet innocent baby boy, or girl.
The last little gem I want to leave specifically to the young people who may come across this blog. How you choose to treat your parents and the results you get from it, is the portion for which you opted into. How your parents chose to train you when you were a child, is the portion in which they opted into. Be sure you're correctly judging options so that you fully innerstand and are able to receive the correct portions due when the tables are turned.
Happy Wednesday
Is it okay that adult children are disrespectful to parents because they are dissatisfied with how they were raised?
Yes
No
It depends (I'm curious-email me why)